Stop Searching. Start Creating.

Stop Searching. Start Creating.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “Be the peace you wish to see in the world.” This is such a true statement and concept which extends into every other area of your life. If you want more joy in your life, stop searching for it and start creating it. If you want more love, peace, prosperity and respect in your life, stop searching for them and start creating them. Write this down and post it somewhere in your office:

Stop searching for __________. Start creating __________.

Years ago, a friend in school told me, “I’ll start donating to my church when I finally have some money.” He didn’t like my answer but I said, “I don’t think it works that way.” We were both sitting at Panera eating lunch. We didn’t have much, but we had enough to eat out from time to time. “Even if we can only give ten dollars,” I said, “that’s better than zero because it gets us in the habit of giving.”

You don’t suddenly wake up and become a generous person overnight after you have money. You actually attract more money by intentionally instilling generosity in your life. You attract more solutions to your life, more great people into your life, more prosperity and opportunities into your life when you’re generous. Successful entrepreneurs don’t wait for success to land on their doorstep before they make smart business decisions. By taking small, courageous steps in managing and leading their organizations, they create the success they want to see in their world.

Charlie Munger, business partner to Warren Buffett and perhaps one of the most well-read humans on the planet said, “You find a great spouse by deserving one.” This concept applies to business opportunity, exceptional team members, prosperity and profit as well. You find yourself at the helm of a great business with exceptional profit, engaged employees and high performance by placing yourself in the position to deserve all of these things. And the fastest way to do this is to subtract everything standing in the way.

On the Burleson Box Podcast, I speak with Leidy Klotz, professor and author of Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less. Instead of bolting more things onto the business or into your life, Leidy and I discuss how you can strip away things that aren’t moving you in the right direction. Your answers might be different than mine, but I’ve never been shy about sharing what I’ve done that has worked and what has blown up in my face. Here are some things that I’ve removed and that have allowed me to find prosperity:

  • Busyness – I used to think getting more done was a badge of honor. It’s not. I’ve learned to say “no” which allows me to say “yes” to what really matters (i.e., the unmovable priorities in my life of autonomy, time with my family, serving others and my higher sense of purpose).

  • Poor sleep – I used to burn the candle at both ends, relentlessly. This was a dangerous combination of ego and a sign of low self esteem. Today, I go to bed at 9:00pm or 9:30pm at the latest and get up early, working on my highest contributions before lunch and cruising to mid-afternoon, done well before dinner time so that I have plenty of time for reading, reflection, exercise, etc.

  • Poor diet and exercise – Running non-stop, working too late into the night and taking on too many projects was a recipe for eating poorly, eating too late and generally destroying my health and blood pressure. I’ve lost over 30 pounds since last year, when I stopped drinking, started exercising regularly and put myself in bed at a normal hour. I’m a much calmer person and significantly more tolerant of the daily hiccups and challenges that come my way. I still idle at a high RPM, so to speak, but I used to run so hard and so fast that, to borrow a joke from Bill Burr, it didn’t take long for me to go from zero to 100 when I was idling at 88 mph.

  • Spirituality, prayer and meditation – these are critical in my life. I’m embarrassed to say that they used to get attention if I found the time, but I’ve reworked the equation so that I’m more likely to start and end my day with time for reflection, prayer, connection with God and community, so that I’m vividly aware that I’m a small part of something much bigger than me. In my mind, the world used to revolve around me. I’m working hard to remember how silly that was and how to do better so that everyone around me thrives.

  • Friendships and relationships – the strongest bonds have become stronger and some weaker relationships have drifted away as I commit to who I am and what I want to do with the rest of my life. It’s painful to admit that we have to outgrow some friendships, but that’s the truth. You will become the average of the people you hang out with, so make sure your inner circle is a tight-knit group of absolutely fabulous people of the highest character and intentions with a positive vision of the future. If your inner circle talks more about gossip, sports or the weather and less about the big ideas, concepts, and challenges or curiosities in life, join or create a stronger inner circle.

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Worked at Burleson Orthodontics. Attended University of Missouri–Kansas City. Lives in Kansas City, Missouri.